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Are you dreams trying to tell you something?
We have all heard stories of people who have dreamed of a series of numbers, and used those numbers to win the lottery, or of people who have dreamed of impending disaster, and then made choices that saved their lives like changing from a flight that crashed or staying home the day a bomb went off at work. Indeed, there are many cases in history of predicting the future, from people in the bible to President Abraham Lincoln. We call these dreams “precognitive dreams.”
Science cannot explain these experiences, but does that make them untrue?
Dreams of our own personal future may not be as dramatic or as extreme as those life changing examples, but nor may they be so rare. Our subconscious mind has many more capabilities than we are usually aware of, or indeed, than we make use of. One of the great skills of our subconscious mind is to seek meaning in things we don’t understand, and part of the way to do this is to look for patterns in our lives. Our subconscious mind will often see the implications of our choices, the cause and effect going on in our lives, before we consciously realise. Our dreams may indeed be visions of the future if we learn to understand them, our subconscious minds way of saying “if you do this, this is what may happen”. Sometimes this may be a warning, at other times it can be a solution to a problem, or show the reward of our hard work, patience or perseverance.
Where are the signs in our dreams pointing towards?
Another way dreams can help us anticipate the future is by supporting our intuition. in those moments when we just “get a hunch” or “have a feeling,” our intuition is at work. Sometimes our intuition may stem from a half remembered dream, or it may be the conscious recognition of the patterns the dreams have been playing out in our minds for some ways. As we improve our relationship with dreams, so too can we improve our intuition, and increase the likelihood of having those lucky hunches more often.
Sometimes though, it seems even this explanation is inadequate. Sometimes a dream of the future may seem to be a specific message or intention sent to us from another place. This seems to be particularly true when we dream of a loved one. This may take the form of a deceased relative, who appears to warn or give advice, or maybe someone precious who is far away, and needs to share some important information. What exactly is going on here?
There is actually a lot of scientific work going on to explore the connection between human minds. (The links below are a good place to start exploring.) Physics is starting to unravel some of the mysteries as to how space and time can be irrelevant when to seemingly separate things are actually part of the same thing. Who knows if this is happening when are dream of those we love. This can be perhaps more easilly accessed in our dreaming state, when our conscious mind is not in the way to tell us what is impossible!
How can your dreams help you live a brighter future?
But science still has a long way to go in explaining communication with the departed. Perhaps this is one experience we have to interpret purely in our own personal way, and to make the best of what we learn.
Even without being visited by people, alive or no, in our sleeping hours, we can all learn to better cultivate our own self understanding through dreams, and in doing so become the best possible creators of our future.
http://www.monstrous.com/forum/index.php?topic=3032.0;wap2
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nonlocality
Feel confused or don't know the answer? Maybe you should sleep on it
What to do, what to do, what to do??? We’ve all had the experience, where some issue just doesn’t seem clear to us, some decision just seems impossible to make, some problem just seems too difficult to solve. We may have wrestled with the issue in our our minds, maybe tried writing a list of pros and cons, perhaps spoken to friends, family or experts. And yet some how the way forward still isn’t clear. We may feel torn, anxious or just at a dead end. So, what to do?
It may seem like a meaningless cliche, but the advice to “sleep on it” is not as useless as it may at first seem. In our sleep our subconscious mind takes over. It is the role of this part of our mind to make meaning, to make sense of things. This part of mind, freed from the normal waking constraints of annoying things like logic, laws and social convention, can also be our most creative. We know our minds in this state ignore all the usual rules and regulations, or else how else could we fly or breathe underwater, and why else would we turn up to class naked or become another person as we do in our dreams? It is precisely this kind of free thinking that can solve problems for us.
But dreams aren’t simply random creative ideas, dreams are the way our subconscious attempts to resolve conflict. If there is something in our lives that is not working, if we hate our job or don’t know how to confront our parents with our true feelings, dreams will try and work it out for us. The trick is to recognise the answers when they come.
This can be difficult when we have not even admitted to ourselves or recognised exactly what our issue or concern is. But it is much easier when we know what the problem is, but we just don’t know the answer. We can actively look for our answers in our dreams. There are some tricks and techniques we can use to help tis process be more effective:
- Get as much advice, or do as much research as you can while awake about whatever the particular question of concern is. This is like feeding our minds. It doesn’t matter if we don’t remember it all or process it consciously, the information still goes into our minds, and when are asleep our subconscious can take over, looking for connections we may have missed, drawing conclusions we couldn’t grasp while awake.
- Think about the problem or question just as you go to sleep. Write it down, draw it or even say it out loud. Stating the problem clearly makes it easier to understand the answer. Give a message to your own subconscious, tell yourself what you need to know and repeat this silently in your mind as you fall asleep. This can trigger the subconscious to start working on that problem straight away. It knows where to focus and will take up where you left off when you were awake.
- Think about the question you had as soon as you wake up. Write down any fragments or images or words that come into your mind, however fleeting and irrelevant they may seem. Take time to try and remember you dreams clearly, and record it in as much detail as possible.
- Persist and persist! If the answer does not come after one night, do not give up! Give it time, let your subconscious grapple with all the complexity, let it also try to formulate an answer in a way that in your waking state will make sense to you. This kind of thinking is a skill, like any other, that requires time and practice to master.
Our subconscious mind may find creative solutions our waking mind can't see
But the rewards are well worth it. Scientific breakthroughs, ideas for great works of art and literature, mathematical equations – all have come to people who cultivated their dreams to help them understand and resolve waking life issues (see “Famous Dreams” post). But more simple, and yet more profound breakthroughs can happen for all of us on a very personal level. It might be whether to leave our job, whether this person is the right one to marry, or how to tell someone that significant secret we have been harbouring. Whatever it is, if we feel lost, confused, and don’t know which way to turn, we can always find support and guidance by looking within, by listening to the voice inside of us, through the special language of our dreams. We would all do well to heed the advice, and “sleep on it”
Do you see the same words in your day-time journal as you do in your dream records?
Sometimes we need a breakthrough when working on dreams. Sometimes it can seems as if we labour day and night to understand what our dreams are telling us, and though we may feel we can decipher the symbols, somehow the greater meaning, the real insight that makes go “yes! I get it!” still manages to elude us.
At times like these, it can help to write a journal, or diary. Keeping a record of daytime activities, thoughts, feelings and relationships can be an incredibly useful tool to understanding both our dreams, and consequently, our entire selves, much more clearly. A day time record and reflection of life is a complement to our night time dream records and reflections. The two work together, like night and day, dark and light, subconscious and conscious, providing balance and unity to our self exploration.
If you are unfamiliar or new to journaling, there a few things to keep in mind as you get started. Firstly, keep it light. This activity is not meant to feel like a chore, but should be something you enjoy. Don’t worry how many pages you write or how often you do it. Just do it when you feel inspired, or need to get something off your chest. It shouldn’t weigh you down. Secondly, write what you feel. That’s not to say you shouldn’t write about what events and relationships are happening in your life, as these can be really helpful in giving a context to what is going on. But equally, a journal should not be like a shopping list. “Got up, went to work, traffic bad, filed report, came home, went to gym, ate dinner, went to bed” – this is not a particularly useful journal entry. ”Can’t be bothered writing today, feel so tired and work is stressing me out. But relieved I at least finished that report” would be a far more useful entry. Journaling should include what we think and feel, as well as what we do.
Does reflecting on dreams make life look a little different?
Keeping a journal in this way, and reflecting back on what we have written from time to time can be a helpful tool in coming to understand ourselves better, just on its own. But when we combine this activity with the practice of doing dream work, we can notice far more powerful and profound effects. We may start to discover things about ourselves that are really surprising, we may reach real breakthroughs in understanding, things that change how we look at ourselves and the world, things that change what we believe and how we behave.
In order to do this, we can start by looking for connections. Though this is the easiest and most obvious way to start, it can provide really interesting insights. We may write a record of dream such as “dreamed of trying to call my mother, but the person on the other end of the phone says its my office, and keeps putting me on hold and won’t connect me. All I keep hearing is static.” So for dream work we might analyse the symbols and think we aren’t able to communicate (the phone) with our wise caring self (mother). But somehow this doesn’t really ring true enough. Maybe it doesn’t feel wrong, but its like we are still missing something.
So we start journaling. And one day we write “I just don’t feel satisfied at work anymore, I feel like my life is on hold and I wish I could just do something more creative.” Suddenly the dream takes on a new meaning. Being “on hold” we notice as words both in our dream record, and in our journal. And now the “mother” is not simply our wise caring self, but the creative part of our personality that we are putting on hold by being in the office all day. As this dream is resolved and understood, it makes way for new dreams to come, ones that don’t simply articulate the problem, but can even provide a solution.
Another way dream records and journaling can work to provide new insight is by identifying patterns. This takes time and patience, and requires looking back over dreams and day time reflections to notice how certain dreams may correspond with certain feelings or actions. Maybe we frequently dream of tidal waves when deadlines are approaching, or of a wild animal after a night with a lover. These patterns can start to help us decode the symbols in our dreams, so when the symbol turns up again, we know what it is referring to. As we become more skillful with this art, our dreams may even start to put the familiar symbols together in new ways to help reveal even deeper meaning. Maybe we will dream of a wild animal facing a tidal wave, as we approach a deadline to marriage, for example. Our dreams, confident we understand the animal and the tidal wave, help us to understand and cope with feelings in new situations. This is one way dreams help us to grow and learn.
It may seem as is everything is infused with hidden meaning
When we start working with dreams it may come as a surprise that the symbols we find in our sleep have an equally powerful meaning when we are awake. As we start to understand the hidden meanings in objects and actions, we may start to notice them everywhere. It may start in films, TV shows and the books we read, but before long we may start to realise that even simple every day items and behaviours have more meaning than we initially realised. You may notice you always wear black when you are feeling a bit down or yellow when you are happy, so these colours in waking life are symbolic to you. Or you may notice how you always have a shower after work even though you aren’t exactly dirty, because you want to wash the frustrations of the day away, so washing is a symbolic.
Soon it can seem that the symbols of our dreams spring to life around us. A tree isn’t simply a tree anymore, it a a representation of growth and renewal, or strength and support. The road we drive home is not just tarmac, but a means to express our journey through life.
When we can start to see the the world in this way, it is like our eyes have been openned. Everything is infused with meaning, the world seems richer and more alive, even hyper real. Every object, every action and behaviour tells a story. And every story is somehow linked to all the others.
This is realising the fundamental inter-connectedness of all things, and is a very profound realisation indeed. When we realise all things are connected, the importance of using our dreams to gain understanding is magnified. And our ability to connect via our dreams not only becomes more enticing, but ever more reachable.
What problems can you solve by sleeping on it?
It is not unusual when we start a new job, take up a new hobby or begin a new course of study, to find that we vividly dream about our new activities in waking life. one of the theories about why we dream is based on this observation, and the fact that children and babies sleep much more than adults, giving them more time to dream and so process the huge amounts of information and skills they are learning.
We can use this knowledge to our advantage by making sure we get enough sleep when learning new skills to give ourselves the maximum chance of subconsciously processing our new skills and making sure we retain them in our long term memory, as well as integrate the skills so they become “second nature, ” which basically means they thoughts and skills have moved from conscious thought into subconscious reactions. Anyone who has learned to drive a car will understand how to begin with, you have to think about every little action: how to brake, when to signal, when to check the mirrors and so on. But after a while, you don’t think about it anymore, it just seems to happen “naturally.” This is our subconscious taking over.
But we can go even further than this, and take our learning and problem solving skills to the next level by actively engaging our dreams. This simply means asking our dreams to help us. We can write our problem on a piece of paper before sleeping, or simply concentrate on what is bothering or concerning us before sleeping. But the important thing then is to let it go, give up trying to consciously struggle with the issue, and relax and let our subconscious take over. our subconscious mind in our dreams will show us connections we may never have noticed when we were awake. This is not so strange as it may seem, many scientists, mathematicians, artists and writers have had breakthroughs on important issues in their dreams. We just need to learn to trust, to let go go, and then to listen to our dreams. We don’t need to passively wait for our dreams to help us, we can actually start to train our dreams to help us.
There is a very good reason when we are struggling to understand something, we will receive the advice to “sleep on it.” Its what happens while we are asleep that is the fascinating part!
What new insights can you gain by sharing your dreams?
Dreams can be perplexing things. At times it can feel like we have the weirdest dreams possible, and nobody could possibly appreciate what we have dreamed, let alone understand any meaning in the cryptic tales.
But in actual fact, not only do most of us have extraordinary and fantastical dreams, but in many instances, other people are able to more quickly guess at what our own dream might be telling us than we are ourselves. Sometimes we are so close to the brush-strokes that we can’t see the whole picture. Other people can help us see patterns that we ourselves might miss.
Dream sharing can be an invaluable tool to help us gain unique and sometimes surprising insights into our dreams. Sometimes simply the act of telling a dream to someone else can help us to suddenly see things from a new perspective. Sharing our dreams can also help us start to see common symbols in other people’s dreams, and hep us appreciate how we can be so similar to others, and yet so profoundly different at the same time. Sharing dreams can help us realise there are other people as just as quirky and strange as we are, so we don’t feel so alone. Even just getting a dream off our chest and out into the open can be an immensely satisfying process.
So if sharing dreams is something you would like to do, there are a variety of ways to go about this. It can be as simple as starting with friends and family, though if personal experience is anything to go by, not everyone will be a wiling audience! If you are lucky enough, as I have been, to have a patient mother, partner or other special person, all well and good. If not, you may wish to start a “dream sharing group” – basically a regular gathering of like minded individuals to talk about and gain deeper understanding of each others dreams.
Or if you prefer a more anonymous and on-line version, you might want to try this site, www.yourdreamjournal.wordpress.com a place to come and be your dream self in all the honest, weird and wonderful glory that you are! Dream Well!
The first step to understanding our dreams is to isolate:
- The individual symbols we can remember
- The different feelings the dream evokes
- Whether the dream has a conclusive ending or not (see Dream Endings: Happy Ever After?)
What does the bigger picture reveal when you put all the pieces together?
By listing all these elements we can gain valuable insights into the hidden meaning of our dreams. This process of breaking down into smaller parts we call “analysis,” which is one of the most common words applied to dream understanding. But the real leaps in knowledge come not from analysis alone, but from a process we refer to as “synthesis.” This is when we take all the different parts we have identified, and try and put them back together again.
Synthesis can be one of the most challenging aspects to dream interpretation, and one of the reasons the meanings of our dreams can be so elusive even when we are familiar with the symbols of our own dreams.
The first step to good synthesis is to look for relationships. We can do this by trying to see how symbols in our dream evoke similar emotions, or seem to be imparting a similar message. So a bear and tree to one person may both have similarities in that they are imparting a message about “wildness.” To another person a bear may symbolise baring your soul, and the tree may also be bare of leaves. Only you can draw the similarities in your own dreams.
Another step to help synthesise our dream is to look for an over-riding theme. Do all the symbols seem to communicate a sense of loss, an excitement of a new prospect, a feeling of love, and so on.
Finally, we can see if we can make the symbols string together in a story of their own. Instead of the story of the dream, can we tell a tale about the symbolic items that we dreamed? For example, to look at the bear in the tree, instead of saying “I chased a bear and it ran up a tree,” we could try “I am seeking to capture my wild spirit, but it eludes me by returning into natural spaces where I don’t go.” You get the picture.
It can be a fine art to master putting back the pieces of our dreams into one overall cohesive whole, but the effort will reward us with a greater understanding of not just our dreams, but also ourselves.
Do you need to take a dose of your own medicine?
We have looked in previous posts at how our dreaming subconscious mind may be more in touch with what is going on with our bodies than our conscious waking minds, but I feel this deserves a little more attention.
While science has not been able to prove a definitive link between dreams and the diagnosis of illness, individual experience can be quite convincing. Often referred to as “Prodromic Dreaming,” is when we dream of something before it becomes apparent, and is most commonly used in the case of detecting a sickness before any other symptoms are obvious or before it has been officially diagnosed.
We need to exercise caution when approaching our dreams for diagnosis. Remembering that dreams are often symbolic, dreaming of having cancer may be more a sign of some “cancerous,” behaviour or relationship in our life that is damaging and harmful to us, than an actual sign of illness. However, there are anecdotal cases of people who have dreamed of things such as spots on their organs or shadows in their bodies that have actually turned out to be cancer. The important thing is not to panic, and to look carefully at all the different things a dream may be saying. Dreaming of taking medicine for example, could be an example of us learnign a lesson in life, of having to “taste our own medicine.” Dreaming of a heart attack can be a symbol of a “broken heart” after a relationship ending, dreaming of not being able to breathe can be a symbol of feeling “suffocated” in a relationship or job and so on. (See the various entries for “Dream Symbols: Body Parts” for some other suggestion.)
To understand how symbolism may be linking to a body part in order to communicate an illness, it is important for us to recognise our own personal symbols. For example, to dream of blocked pipes might be a symbol of kidney stones or a urinary problem to someone who thinks of that part of the body as being like pipes, but to another person it may refer to a possible clogged artery, if that person thinks of ther vascular system as being like a network of pipes.
Key symbols to look out for when trying to assess if a dream may be about illness include images of things rotting, breaking, crumbling or fading away. Dark spots or patches, shadows, ghosts, imps and demons can also indicate a sickness. In some cases, we won’t dream of our body so closely, but may be informed by a guide that there is something wrong. This advice may come from an angel, a departed relative, a doctor or medical person, or some wise stranger or animal. These dreams may also have other symbols of the medical profession, such as x-rays, potions or pills, ambulances, a red cross, hospitals, beds or surgical knives. Yet still other dreams of illness have no medical symbology whatsoever, remember we all dream uniquely, so it is up to us to learn to recognise the signs.
Another way to recognise whether a dream relates to illness is the feeling we get from it. Dreams of impending sickness may start as a whisper, like a headache before a full blown flu. We know something isn’t quite right, even if we aren’t feeling really bad. These early dreams are often warnings to slow down and rest, to eat healthier, to exercise, or stop some sort of bad habit. When we are left with a feeling of urgency or are quite troubled, this may be a sign action is required quickly.
If we suspect a dream may be indicating an illness that has not yet been diagnosed, I would suggest seeking
Can you hear your body's whispers before they become shouts?
professional advice as soon as possible. It is not necessary to advise your doctor you are there because of a dream. Some doctors may be sympathetic, but others may be skeptical, and it is worth making sure you are at least being taken seriously. Only you can make the call how much you wish to share. If the dream has come after a negative diagnosis, and you still feel troubled, seek a second opinion. No human is perfect, and it is worth checking to see all possible angles have been covered. Sometimes a dream of sickness after a negative diagnosis may just be our subconscious mind working through our feelings of anxiety, but at other times it could be a warning that the first diagnosis was wrong. Again, no-one will know this better than you yourself.
From anecdotal evidence, it seems many dreams that warn of impending illness and that are accurate, are fortunately able to be treated because they have been identified so early. If we suspect something is not quite right, it is usually best to catch it early. Our dreams can be like an early warning system that metaphorically gets us out of the burning building in time.
Sometimes though, these dreams themselves contain the cure. They may contain advice to stop eating a certain food or using a kind of cleaning product that we didn’t know we were allergic to, or they may indicate a herb or combination of foods that will help us feel better. These kind of dreams can be really insightful in helping us to heal ourselves, and often on more than simply the physical level.
Can you find a way to resolve you conflicts?
We can learn about important meanings from our dreams depending on how they end. When we start working with our dreams, it is easiest to begin with looking at symbols, how they inter-relate and our feelings about what we experience in the dream. But as we are able to better remember our dreams, we can use our understanding of the narrative or story of the dream to reveal extra meaning to us.
The first step in using this new level of understanding is to look at how our dreams end. This of course presumes that:
1 – The dream actually had a clear ending. Some dreams seem to just dissolve away or merge from one dream into another. What we are looking at in this instance is a clear ending to a series of events.
2 – That we remember a clear ending. If we only remember key symbols and messages, this can be helpful to dream work, but it will not provide the new insight that an ending will.
Clear endings are easy to recognize, as we feel we have come to a definite conclusion in our dreams. The extra level of meaning is revealed by how we feel about this ending. Did we have a happy ending or not? Did we have a dream of running away, where we decided to face our chaser, and they changed shape or ran away themselves? This would be a conclusive happy ending. Similar scenarios might involve struggling through various obstacles and coming out to the other side; transforming something that was attacking or scaring us into something friendly or comical; finding what we were looking for; getting advice, an apology or instructions from someone; or learning a new skill to changes the direction of the dream. We can refer to these kind of dreams as “resolution. ” This basically means we had an issue, and the dream is showing us an answer to our questions, it resolves our problem. Such dreams are very powerful, and have great advice as to what steps we can take to really change our lives. This can help us have a real break-through in waking life, and change our life for the better in way we never thought possible.
If, on the other hand, our dreams have a scary, negative or inconclusive ending, we would describe these as being “unresolved.” To be unresolved means we have no clear understanding of a way forward in our dream, which is usually true of our waking life as well. We often have unresolved dreams when we feel stuck, frustrated, conflicted or confused. Our dreams in these cases will show us always running away from the faceless person who chases us; being attacked by the creature who always catches us; or wandering lost from place to place and not knowing where we are going. This may leave us with a sense of fear, anger, helplessness, sadness, loss, frustration or anxiety. But that does not mean these dreams are negative in themselves!
Even unresolved dreams contain clues to show us the way forward. By working with our dreams and understanding their symbolic meanings, we can start to identify where the blocks and problems are in our waking life. On the one hand, we can start to identify and change the things in our waking life that are causing us conflict or concern, but on the other hand, we can also focus on actually facing up to things in our dreams themselves that we need wish to change. Whether we confront the boss who is bullying us or the absent parent who let us down in waking life; or alternatively we decide to fight back the creature attacking us or turn and confront the mystery person chasing us in our dreams, BOTH things can help us improve our lives. And BOTH things can help us have happy ending in our dreams.
When our dreams show us conflict, they also provide us clues how to resolve that conflict. And whether we choose to address the resolution of this conflict in our waking life or our dreams, both ways can change our lives for the better. And our dreams will show us quite clearly when we are on the right track, and reward us with dreams that show us a way to live happily ever after.
Understanding our dreams is like building a bridge between our conscious and subconscious minds
In a busy life, it can seem like we have no time for ourselves. We all seem to have such full lives, every waking moment is taken up by work, looking after the children, cleaning the house, studying, exercising or sports, trying to find time to spend with friends and family. Squeezing anything else in can feel like an impossible task.
The great thing about dreams is that no matter how full and busy our lives are, we still need to sleep, and we we will always dream. Dreaming is as essential to our health and well being as exercise, it is like oxygen for the soul. Still, many of us think that all we need to do to live a happy, healthy life, is to sleep and let dreams take care of themselves. And if we have never experienced anything different, it is easy to believe that is true.
But if we ignore our dreams we ignore a part of ourselves. Just as we need to find space in our waking lives every now and then to keep in touch with our mother, or play with our children, so too must we find the time to listen to what is going on in our own minds. Dreams allow us to learn lessons from our mistakes, so we are not doomed to repeat them. Dreams allow us to to see what is really going on in a certain situation, so we can make the best decisions. Dreams offer us peace, wisdom and solace, so that we may heal and recover from past hurts. If we ignore our dreams, we ignore ourselves.
Dreams that are ignored may become like a child that is neglected. Such a sad child is likely to be naughty and misbehave to get attention, any attention at all, even if it is being told off. At least by being punished someone is paying attention. Our dreams may act in a similar way. If we don’t pay attention when they are gentle and mild, our dreams may become more insistent, turning into bad dreams, recurring dreams or even nightmares. If we ignore them completely for too long, they may even go underground, manifesting as illness or anxiety.
To only focus on our waking lives, and not pay attention to what happens when we sleep is to live a disjointed life. If we make no space for dreams in our waking life, it is like living only half a life, ignoring what happens when we close our eyes. It does not take much to start listening to our dreams. It really starts with simply paying attention, deciding that our dreams are worth listening to. By taking a moment when we wake to remember our dreams, and finding some space later in the day to contemplate them, to consider what we dreamed and what it might mean, we build a bridge between our conscious and subconscious minds. This means we are not stranded on an island of wakefulness, and can start to access the wisdom of our dreaming mind.
Even if writing and recording dreams seems to take up too much time, we all have times in our day when can spare a few minutes thought to ourselves. It might be in the shower, on the train, waiting to pick the kids up from school, or those few minutes alone over that cup of tea or coffee. We have the choice what we want to think of, how we wish to use our time, where we want our minds to go. Even those few moments of reflection, of thinking, “what does this mean and what can I learn from this?” can be profoundly helpful.
We all owe it to ourselves to spend a little time in taking care of ourselves. And even beyond that, when we take care or ourselves, we find resolution from conflict, the confidence to make the right decision and the wisdom to act thoughtfully. This kind of behaviour is not just good for ourselves, but everyone who we come into contact with. A pretty grand result for just taking the time to listen to our dreams…
